Saturday, August 28, 2010

When your Beloved Want to Jealous You!

Jealousy is a hot-button issue when it comes to relationships, especially when the topic veers over to whether or not girls actually want their guys to get jealous from time to time. It's not an outrageous question and women have requested crazier things in life than that. However, it also simplifies the issue and the actual mind of a woman, which is nothing if not complex (take that as a good or bad thing). Women aren't asking for the green-eyed monster; in reality, they want the cute, cuddly Sesame Street version. We're here to break down the difference between the cutesy jealousy most women desire and the real jealousy they want you to stay far, far away from.

CUTESY JEALOUSY

If you went up to the average gal on the street and asked her: "Do women want men to get jealous?” there's a good shot she'd say yes. No, that is not the end of this article. This fact actually means very little because, as is often the case, most women have no clue what they really want. Do women want to be appreciated by their men? Yes. Do they want to feel attractive to the man they've been dating for a long time? Of course. Would the average women want her man to express mild concern over her (innocently) hanging out with another guy? Sure. However, here's where things get tricky: A woman may think she wants her man to get jealous -- but the jealousy she's after is cutesy jealousy. It bears little resemblance to actual jealousy and may or may not make the female race more annoying to you than ever before. Here’s what can fall under cutesy jealousy.

Sweet territorialism

You're at the bar with your girlfriend and a bunch of friends and you notice a few other guys checking her out as she heads back to your table with drinks. When she arrives back at the table, you throw an arm over her shoulders. This simple move says: "Yes, I notice you're looking hot tonight and yes, I also notice you're getting looks from other guys." It's silent and sweet. You know what's not silent and sweet? Acting like a douche and getting in the face of any of those aforementioned guys over looking at your girl. This isn’t an episode of The Sopranos.

Confident joking

Your girl is all dolled up and ready to head out for a girl's night out. She kisses you goodbye and you smile and say: “Watch out for other penises!” It’s ridiculous and funny, and even if you’re not entirely serious about it (because you trust her, not because you think she’s an ugly hag who can’t get other guys), it still shows you care.

Bottom line

Don't listen to women (kidding... but not really. Make exceptions for your mother and this section of the site, of course). Unless your (crazy) chick is into Ike and Tina role-play, she's not craving real jealousy from you.

REAL JEALOUSY

Real jealousy and cutesy jealousy have absolutely zero in common with each other. Real jealousy is often suffocating and sometimes completely psycho at whatever stage of the relationship you’re at. For those on the prowl or just starting to date a new girl, playing it a little cool and disinterested will be much more beneficial to your overall game than being overprotective and territorial. For guys in long-term relationships, the lack of trust exhibited in real jealousy can completely ruin any partnership. Here are the red-flag behaviors to steer clear of.

Out-of-control anger

If you find yourself resembling the Hulk at any point in a relationship, it’s time to back away slowly. Real jealousy rears its ugly head when either partner becomes uncontrollably angry for no justifiable reason. And it doesn’t count if it’s only justifiable to you.

Invisible suitors

Are you automatically assuming that every male your girlfriend comes in contact with is a risk who might take her away from you? Even if there isn’t a male in question, does your mind get carried away imagining that there will be a male wherever she happens to go without you? If so, you’re heading into the danger zone. Irrational jealousy accomplishes nothing except making you seem insecure -- and it sure as hell won’t stop a girl from cheating if she’s planning to already. In fact, it might even drive her to it.

Bottom line

Jealousy equals insecurity. Insecurity equals unattractive. You really can use math in real life.

GREEN WITH ENVY

Women may not always know what they want, but you can be sure that they know what they don't want -- and that’s an insecure, jealous guy who is capable of a real-life Jekyll & Hyde routine. Jealousy can be smothering and unattractive at the start of relationships and downright destructive in long-term ones. Don't feel like trusting a female on this conclusion? Check out one of AskMen's expert takes on the topic ofjealousy troubles. See? No jealousy here.


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Things Hated By Men In Bed Must Read

We already gave you, guys, some tips about what women hate in bed, and know it’s about time to talk about things that men hate in bed about female behavior. So, ladies, read this carefully if you don’t want to leave bad impression for a guy when you have sex with him. Of course these things might be helpful not for every single couple, because eveyone of us have different needs and requirements for sex.
1. During sex some women doesn‘t do anything – just lie down and expect to have some pleasure now. That is the worst thing you can do, men hate that. Women should move, despite man is on the top. Women, show your partners that you want to have sex with them as well as he does. If women look like “lying dead” – partner can even get sexual problems, if he cares how to give you pleasure.

2. Almost every woman would agree that she likes to be kissed. Well the same is with men. They also love when women are kissing them, all his body. That drives them crazy. If you want to satisfy your men in bed, kiss him, tease and play with him.
3. Some old fashioned women still think that man has to take all the control in bed while having sex. But that is absolutely wrong. Women also have to take control in bed. Show that you want to have sex now, tell him what he has to do, because now you are the one who is dictating the rules. I can assure your man will be very excited and pleased about such an action. Sometimes they like to be controlled.
4. Be very sensitive to your partner. Women like to have sensitive man next to her, try doing the same to your man. Men’s bodies are really sensitive and women should do their best to make him feel as good as he makes her feel. Ladies, don’t be egoistic.
5. If you want to get pleasure, don’t forget to give it to your partner too. Men sometimes thing that their lady in bed doesn’t care at all what is he feeling, does he like her actions. Women should always remember to ask questions such as “how do you like that?”, “how does that feel?” Let him know that you care what he feels and if he likes that or not. They love to have your attention.
6. Don’t confuse your partner. Some women don’t show their emotions – that means men do not understand weather you like it or not. Don’t feel shy to scream when you feel like screaming from pleasure, breathe a bit harder. Do some noise, because it’s the best way to inform your partner about your feelings at that moment. That would help you too. Your man will know what you like best and you will be rewarded.
7. Do you feel your sexual life is getting a bit boring? Take some action – keep it new. Don’t be shy to surprise your partner with some new sexy outfit. Wear it, dance to him and you will drive him crazy. They love little teasing with sexy clothes and get excited about upcoming sex.