Sunday, August 15, 2010

May be your child is not ready for Potty Training





A mother writes: "My child is potty training today. We have stuffed her full of drinks and she pees about every 10 to 15 minutes. She has used the potty several times when we take her to it at timed intervals. She does not seem to understand that when she feels the urge, she should go sit on the potty herself. She pees wherever she is sitting (a few times on us) and does not seem to mind. I do not want to 'catch' her pee all day long. What do you suggest we do??"
I get questions like this quite frequently. The answer I have, however, may not be one that many parents want to hear. What you should do is stop potty training.

Yes. Stop. But don't look at it as quitting or as a setback. Think of it more like taking a break.

The reason: Your child is not ready to potty train yet.

There are many signs of readiness and among those are:

Interest and desire, which means that she wants to go to the potty and is not indifferent to peeing on your lap. She should be talking about it and asking questions and showing curiosity about potty "things" like the toilet, underwear, toilet paper and the flush handle.
Longer periods of dryness, which means not giving her excess fluids. If she's staying dry on her own for two to three hours at a time, then her bladder capacity is increasing. In addition, it makes for more opportunities for success and less opportunity for failure if she's not going to the bathroom every 10 to 15 minutes.
Awareness, which means she recognizes when she's wet or poopy first, and then later in time recognizes the urges that come before she's wet and poopy. She also has to be able to connect the urges to the act AND be able to move herself to the bathroom after making that connection.
If you take the process of using the bathroom and break it down into its many steps, you can see why potty training is such a process for a young child's mind and why it takes time and practice to gain mastery.

So, for now, unless you are practicing an alternate method of potty training that is more parent-centered than child-centered and requires you to "catch" your child peeing (like Infant Potty Training) take a break and return to potty training when your child's mind and body is completely ready to take on the task. It will be so much less stressful for both of you if you can wait.
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Things Hated By Men In Bed Must Read

We already gave you, guys, some tips about what women hate in bed, and know it’s about time to talk about things that men hate in bed about female behavior. So, ladies, read this carefully if you don’t want to leave bad impression for a guy when you have sex with him. Of course these things might be helpful not for every single couple, because eveyone of us have different needs and requirements for sex.
1. During sex some women doesn‘t do anything – just lie down and expect to have some pleasure now. That is the worst thing you can do, men hate that. Women should move, despite man is on the top. Women, show your partners that you want to have sex with them as well as he does. If women look like “lying dead” – partner can even get sexual problems, if he cares how to give you pleasure.

2. Almost every woman would agree that she likes to be kissed. Well the same is with men. They also love when women are kissing them, all his body. That drives them crazy. If you want to satisfy your men in bed, kiss him, tease and play with him.
3. Some old fashioned women still think that man has to take all the control in bed while having sex. But that is absolutely wrong. Women also have to take control in bed. Show that you want to have sex now, tell him what he has to do, because now you are the one who is dictating the rules. I can assure your man will be very excited and pleased about such an action. Sometimes they like to be controlled.
4. Be very sensitive to your partner. Women like to have sensitive man next to her, try doing the same to your man. Men’s bodies are really sensitive and women should do their best to make him feel as good as he makes her feel. Ladies, don’t be egoistic.
5. If you want to get pleasure, don’t forget to give it to your partner too. Men sometimes thing that their lady in bed doesn’t care at all what is he feeling, does he like her actions. Women should always remember to ask questions such as “how do you like that?”, “how does that feel?” Let him know that you care what he feels and if he likes that or not. They love to have your attention.
6. Don’t confuse your partner. Some women don’t show their emotions – that means men do not understand weather you like it or not. Don’t feel shy to scream when you feel like screaming from pleasure, breathe a bit harder. Do some noise, because it’s the best way to inform your partner about your feelings at that moment. That would help you too. Your man will know what you like best and you will be rewarded.
7. Do you feel your sexual life is getting a bit boring? Take some action – keep it new. Don’t be shy to surprise your partner with some new sexy outfit. Wear it, dance to him and you will drive him crazy. They love little teasing with sexy clothes and get excited about upcoming sex.