You know trouble can happen when you leave teens who are dating alone, but you want to trust them a little, right? How much privacy should teens have when they are dating? How much privacy should your teen have when they are at your home with a date? Read what our parenting community has had to say.
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Our middle and high schools reflect a scary story, nation wide that something is amiss. Our tv reality shows now reflect teen pregnancy as an intertainment show ! Humm , what is wrong with this picture? Obviously, we parents “may” need to rethink how we feel about “Teen Privacy” because something is awful wrong going on.
Teen Dating Should Be Social
I believe teen dating should a social activity. In our house, visiting with friends has always been with doors open. At this age, teens need more practice on social interaction than sexual action. I explained it to my teens that the sexual aspect of any long-tern relationship constitutes a very, very small percentage of what those relationships are made of. It's all the other times and activities that really count to keep two people committed to each other. To that end, if an activity can't be done in public, then it shouldn't be done. Now, that doesn't mean teens shouldn't have some privacy. I offer that privacy by keeping out of hearing distance, out of sight when they are in a public venue, and only asking general questions about their times together.
No Privacy, All in the open
If you allow dating teens privacy, the devil may make them commit sin. So they should be where all eyes will see them always.
I think it's based on trust.
I think it depends on how much you trust your teen to control themselves. Now, I don't believe in leaving them alone for hours and their is no cuddling on the couch, but I feel we can leave my son alone with his girlfriend for a period of time. We are in the house and able to walk in at any time and we do!
None... or close to it!
I don't think teens NEED privacy - or not much! Really the more they get the more they will take advantage of it. A few minutes to say goodbye on the porch, they can play a card game in the kitchen, with people walking in and out, etc. No need for make out sessions on the family room couch.
Close to the Main Part of the Home
I agree with much that has been stated before me. I think semi-private in family areas, but never bedrooms or rooms that are off and away from the general run of the house. Too much alone time can lead to so. much. trouble. (speaking from experience.)
Don't Drive Them Away
I think any room is okay as long as the door stays open. You don't want to drive them to going "parking." That can be too dangerous. One of my friend's daughters was parking with her boyfriend and was robbed at gunpoint. Thankfully, they weren't hurt.
Some, Not a Lot
It's a balance, isn't it? Because I'd rather have them at my house so I can keep an eye on them, but certainly I don't want them in my child's bedroom with the door closed. I think I'd be comfortable leaving them alone in a public space (family room, living room, kitchen, etc) but not a bedroom.
Teens privacy
Ahhh, so much potential trouble! I think we should go back to arranged marriages. Or no dating without chaperones till they're 30. No? Sigh. OK, I've always favored quasi-privacy -- they're hanging out in the family room or the kitchen, I'm a room or two away. Or if I have to go out or be at work, well, pesky little siblings can be very good at de-romanticizing the setting
Stay Out of Their Way, But Don't Go Away
I think it's a balance. You want to give them privacy but not too much. Also you want to get to know your teens date. So let them study or hang out together without you around, but then have everyone sit down together for dinner.
Family Room - Yes, Bedroom - No
I think allowing them some privacy in the living room or family room is appropriate but not for hours at a time.
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Our middle and high schools reflect a scary story, nation wide that something is amiss. Our tv reality shows now reflect teen pregnancy as an intertainment show ! Humm , what is wrong with this picture? Obviously, we parents “may” need to rethink how we feel about “Teen Privacy” because something is awful wrong going on.
Teen Dating Should Be Social
I believe teen dating should a social activity. In our house, visiting with friends has always been with doors open. At this age, teens need more practice on social interaction than sexual action. I explained it to my teens that the sexual aspect of any long-tern relationship constitutes a very, very small percentage of what those relationships are made of. It's all the other times and activities that really count to keep two people committed to each other. To that end, if an activity can't be done in public, then it shouldn't be done. Now, that doesn't mean teens shouldn't have some privacy. I offer that privacy by keeping out of hearing distance, out of sight when they are in a public venue, and only asking general questions about their times together.
No Privacy, All in the open
If you allow dating teens privacy, the devil may make them commit sin. So they should be where all eyes will see them always.
I think it's based on trust.
I think it depends on how much you trust your teen to control themselves. Now, I don't believe in leaving them alone for hours and their is no cuddling on the couch, but I feel we can leave my son alone with his girlfriend for a period of time. We are in the house and able to walk in at any time and we do!
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None... or close to it!
I don't think teens NEED privacy - or not much! Really the more they get the more they will take advantage of it. A few minutes to say goodbye on the porch, they can play a card game in the kitchen, with people walking in and out, etc. No need for make out sessions on the family room couch.
Close to the Main Part of the Home
I agree with much that has been stated before me. I think semi-private in family areas, but never bedrooms or rooms that are off and away from the general run of the house. Too much alone time can lead to so. much. trouble. (speaking from experience.)
Don't Drive Them Away
I think any room is okay as long as the door stays open. You don't want to drive them to going "parking." That can be too dangerous. One of my friend's daughters was parking with her boyfriend and was robbed at gunpoint. Thankfully, they weren't hurt.
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| How Much Privacy Should Dating Teens Have |
Some, Not a Lot
It's a balance, isn't it? Because I'd rather have them at my house so I can keep an eye on them, but certainly I don't want them in my child's bedroom with the door closed. I think I'd be comfortable leaving them alone in a public space (family room, living room, kitchen, etc) but not a bedroom.
Teens privacy
Ahhh, so much potential trouble! I think we should go back to arranged marriages. Or no dating without chaperones till they're 30. No? Sigh. OK, I've always favored quasi-privacy -- they're hanging out in the family room or the kitchen, I'm a room or two away. Or if I have to go out or be at work, well, pesky little siblings can be very good at de-romanticizing the setting
Stay Out of Their Way, But Don't Go Away
I think it's a balance. You want to give them privacy but not too much. Also you want to get to know your teens date. So let them study or hang out together without you around, but then have everyone sit down together for dinner.
Family Room - Yes, Bedroom - No
I think allowing them some privacy in the living room or family room is appropriate but not for hours at a time.
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